Facebook Connects Me

I hear a lot of complaints about facebook and for the most part I understand them. I hear complaints like “there’s too much drama, there are too many boring statuses from too many people with boring lives, it’s too time-consuming”, etc etc, etc. I know I spend too much time on facebook and my computer in general I don’t need to be told that, although people close to me seem to take every chance they can to do just that.

I moved to this valley in 1979, barely out of high school and pregnant with my second child already. I didn’t want to leave my family but I felt overwhelmed by the life I had ignorantly begun to carve for myself. Moving seemed the only way to force my husband to grow up and face his responsibilities and for the most part it did accomplish that. But it came at a cost.

The years, the miles, and the life’s responsibilities left me little time or money to visit family outside of immediate family. The relationships I had developed with cousins growing up slowly faded away as I missed more and more family functions.

Fast forward 30 years and then came facebook. Since joining facebook I have been to my Aunt and Uncle’s 50th wedding Anniversary party only to have my uncle pass the next day. But I don’t know if I would have even gone if I had not rekindled my relationship with his daughter, my cousin Lisa on facebook and developed what I consider an even stronger bond with her daughter Brittany , my second cousin.

My second cousin Brittany and I

My second cousin Brittany and I

They say a letter in the mail is more personal but honestly if I would have gotten an invitation in the mail I probably would have dismissed it with an “I have to work”. But my cousin emailed me and created an event on facebook. I took vacation from work and I went.

My cousin Lisa invited me through facebook

My cousin Lisa invited me through facebook


My Uncle Kenny, who I hadn't seen in years passed away the very next day.

My Uncle Kenny, who I hadn’t seen in years passed away the very next day.

I’ve been to Florida to see my favorite Aunt, my Aunt Joan and her children that live there. I had been planning this trip for several years so it may have happened anyway but facebook allowed me to have a semi relationship with the cousins I had not seen or talked to in many many years, When I got there it wasn’t just Stephanie (who I had been bonding with since Myspace) but it was her siblings who also felt familiar in person because, in part of the relationship we have with each other online.

My cousin Stephanie and I

My cousin Stephanie and I

During my father’s illness I created a few groups on my page to keep the most important people in my life abreast of the progression of the cancer. One of my favorite groups is that of The Marmion First Cousins. This group includes the children of both of my father’s sisters and my own two siblings. Later I added spouses to help families keep up with the posts. Best thing I ever did. The bond that the 16 original plus spouses have made in there is phenomenal; at least it is to me.

My cousin Joe and her husband Janet during our November trip to Harpers Ferry West Virginia

My cousin Joe and her husband Janet during our November trip to Harpers Ferry West Virginia

Recently my cousin Cyndi, one of those Marmion first cousins, was here from California. We share a love of photography and before her arrival she wrote and suggested she visit so I could show her the country side I love to photograph so much.

My California cousin Cyndi and I on a foggy Columbus Day 2012

My California cousin Cyndi and I on a foggy Columbus Day 2012

After much coordinating with other schedules we carved out a date for us and she arrived with her husband and brother, my cousin Terry on the crappiest weather day we have had this fall. I had a whole trip planned with many stops throughout the county and I even named it; The Shenandoah Valley Itinerary.

We had a really good time and it would have never happened if it had not been for facebook.
I’m looking forward to connecting with more of my cousins in the near future.
Next up the girl “Rappa” cousins.

See you soon ladies!

See you soon ladies!

And then..who knows…

Hello New York are you paying attention?

Cousins

Cousins

12 thoughts on “Facebook Connects Me

  1. Yeah…I’m with you 100%. Since FB, I have found long-lost friends, picked up a few from the airport when they decided to visit, rekindled friendships, organized family reunions and anniversary parties, etc. loving FB.

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  2. Whatever works for you, I say. I’m not a big fan of FB but I don’t begrudge anyone who finds it enhances their life/relationships. Do what make you happy, Dawn. Whatever works. 😉

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  3. FB can be a pain at times, but I am glad I got hooked. It kept us connected to our son while he was deployed. One simple message on FB told us he was safe – even if it was “read a book today”. Then I started to fine long lost friends from our military life, a childhood friend we have not seen in over 30 yrs and when we got together it was like not time had lapsed. We have a small family but through FB and email I have been able to stay in touch with family that I have not seen since I was a child. What is really special is writing to my German cousins in German thanks to the translation tools on the internet. I can go on and on….so yes I am addicted to the computer but it is a good addiction and it led me to blogging…so there you have it! It was fun seeing your pictures with your family – so glad things worked out for you.

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  4. I also found a lot of old friends through fb. Even my husband 🙂 We were long time friends but our communication paused for a long time, then here comes fb “connecting people”… thru it, our communication continues until we get married 🙂

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