Surprise! I’m an Introvert, Who Knew?

In October a new blogger appeared in my reader when I gladly began to follow my photog friend Cee’s wife, Chris at 61 Musings. Her blog began innocently enough, answering the daily prompts, sharing her favorite TED videos and finding her way in the blogging world. I found most posts interesting and thoughtful. And then on January 8, 2014 everything changed.

Chris began blogging almost exclusively about introverts. The home-bound anti-social audience ate it up. They joined forces and declared they weren’t shy or snobs they just didn’t like idle conversations, they thrived on intellectual exchanges and time alone to think intellectual and creative thoughts. I was insulted.

I have intellectual creative thoughts, I just like to share them with my closest friends.

I’m opinionated and boisterous at times. I’m the one who organizes outings for girlfriends and family.

I speak my mind (although not as much as in my younger days). I’ve always considered myself, if not an extrovert, damn close.

I don’t like a lot of people at once. I prefer small groups or one on one. I always thought I was a snob.

I’m rarely lonely and in fact enjoy my solitude above all else.

I kept reading Chris’s blog (without commenting). Then I took the personality test (you can too, click here) and lo and behold, found out I was an introvert! People who know me won’t believe it. But that is part of the misconception. I had it too. I am a moderate introvert, but an introvert, none the less. It explains so much.

Below is my assessment, I think the people that know me will be amazed to find out I am an introvert but once they read this explanation they will be raising their eyebrows in surprised agreement.

Introverted Thinking

Introverted Thinking is turned inward and is largely invisible. It is only with great difficulty, if at all, that the ISFJ could willingly commit anyone to their doom. Perhaps this explains why ISFJs are loyal to the end; there is no sense of purely objective (i.e., impersonal) judgement of anyone but themselves (and that only by their own standards). Here is this type’s Achilles heel that makes many of them so vulnerable to the scoundrels and ne’er-do-wells who often use and abuse them.

Little ole introverted me.

Little ole introverted me.

28 thoughts on “Surprise! I’m an Introvert, Who Knew?

  1. So I outed you, did I? 🙂

    It’s a continuum, not an absolute. We’re all a little bit of everything, fortunately for us. It would be a boring world otherwise, and we wouldn’t be able to enjoy your sense of humor and your photography.

    I’m glad you are enjoying my blog. Thank you for your kind words.

    I just wanted to let you know that I can never see a window without thinking of you. Cee’s always looking for windows because of your challenge. Unfortunately, we don’t have a lot of old or interesting buildings in our little agricultural town, more’s the pity. But we keep our eyes peeled for something interesting.


    • Chris is right, I am always on the hunt for windows. To bad I live in a small town and a new one at that (historical speaking). We don’t have anything more than 2 stories high either.

      I’m much like you, I adore the one on one or small group. Large group, I just shut up and feel stupid.


      • I don’t feel stupid as much as I have sensory over load. I went out with a group of five a few weeks ago and decided that is really the largest group I am comfortable in. And even with that I felt I was missing some conversations and not paying equal attention to everyone. Overload!


    • I don’t know if I wannabe an extrovert. I adore my solitude! When I discussed this post with my ex a few weeks ago (yes, I have been working on it for a while now) he scoffed at my introvert diagnosis but then I reminded him how fiercely I guard my alone time. That alone was enough to convince him.

      Because I was so shy in school I “pretended” that I wasn’t. I use humor, of course but my acting skills really came into play when it came time to do book reports. As a man of the pulpit, who is also an introvert, is that how you speak in front of a crowd? Do you pretend that you are brave and confident?


      • Actually I internalize a lot of what I say. I pray a lot about what I think the Lord would wish to say through me and I speak that. I have always performed in plays and played as a musician but when I speak or teach or sing I am alone with the words and music. It is only afterwards that I need to go and hide. The large crowds before and after church can be overwhelming but I have learned to “manage” them even enjoying them, as long as I remember that afterwards I need to spend quiet time in my office before going back out into the world.


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  3. Hi Dawn – I have been enjoying her posts too – the ones I get to read that is – but wow – such awesome stuff and I like the way Chris expounds. anyhow, I liked your post about it – and LOVE your picture – the scarf – the one arm up – you off to the side of the frame – and the B & W – it is really a great shot. oh – and at the beach – yeah…. 🙂


  4. Welcome to the club

    Much line you…. When I learned (years ago) that I was introvert, I thought “no way, I’m much to talkative”… But when I learned more I realized the Assessment was correct…

    I’m very much middle of the road – in fact middle of the road on pretty much all aspects of the Myers-Briggs {I/E, S/N, T/F, J/P}. In my case, I’m ISTJ (barely).


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