Word Press asks us this week if we believe we have a soul mate. I am 55 and single. I have two divorces and a broken engagement under my belt so, probably no. I’ve quit looking; actively looking that is. There are too many other things I would rather be doing.
I read recently that people who are content being single (like me) are people who avoid conflict, (like me?). Hmmmm…
I used to do the online dating thing. I had many first and second dates and even a few short-term relationships. I have a couple of guys from those years that I consider friends to this day.
In 2009 my profile looked something like this:
This bit of my profile (there was so much more) was picked up by one man in particular. I had never heard from this “gentleman” before but he wrote to ask me what right did I have seeking such a man given how fat I was (Ha! He should see me now!). These sort of emails were common place and I expect little has changed. I’m not interested.
I wrote last year about the kind of man I would be attracted to in my letter: Dear Future Husband I haven’t found him yet. But in my own way I am still looking.
My way of looking is to go ahead and live my life. I plan to go to the places I want to visit and do the things I enjoy. My pie in the sky is to find a man doing the same. The good thing is that if it never happens I am okay with that.
During the summer I spent a wonderful day doing the things I love to do and going to the places I love to go to. The weather was gorgeous and I was in my element. Read about it here.
I was taking pictures at Afton Vineyards when a man behind me said “What is that…a camera?” It took me a moment to get the joke. I said “Why yes, do you remember these things? It’s what people used to take pictures before cell phones. It works like this” and I snapped his picture.
It was a fun flirty moment, the kind I love.
..and then his wife came back from the ladies room…